I have been thinking about my horoscope from a few days ago. I know it seems so odd to dwell on something that is so minor to someone else. But I usually try to read mine every day. It either fits or it doesn't, either way, no harm done in the 30 seconds it takes to feed a little bit of my soul with astrological words.
Maybe I spent so much time the last few days toying with the ideas in my head that it finally hit me why that particular reading was odd to me and seemed to fester in the back of my brain.
How many times do we as women ( and men too ) really admit to ourselves what we want? What we desire? And I'm not talking about what we want for our families, or our children or our spouses and friends. What do YOU want for yourself? What do you WANT? And is the same thing that you need? Usually not. Usually the need is already been met by the universal law of attraction. We all have the capability to provide for our-self and our family the "needs", even if on the most necessary and basic level. The capacity is there for needs.
What do you want? Do you really even know? Can you honestly admit to yourself without a grain of guilt or judgement about what you truly want? Because when you decide it's okay to actually want it, sometimes the universe has a funny way of moving things around in order for you to take in an abundance of what you want. Sometimes it gives our want to us and it isn't even what we thought we wanted, and everything is rearranged once again, because we learn to ask in a more clear manner. Communication, honesty, and transparency are necessities in relationships of all kinds.
To the degree we're not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves.
I know what it is that I want. It is encompassed in a few different things. I want someone to be sorry for the pain they caused even if momentarily and not hurt another, I want my friends to be together for the next 20 years like they have the last 20 years, I want my friendships to grow and flourish and stay meaningful, and I want to be with the man who has become my best friend for the rest of my life. I want him to want me in the same way. I want my kids to make their own mistakes and not blame someone else for them and I want them to travel and live an abundant life in culture. I want my new business to thrive and outgrow my own hands and I want my writing to leave a legacy for my children after I am gone. I want nice things and little treasures, and I want land to spread out on. Those things aren't selfish once recognized. And you will find they also make you truly grateful for the things that you have and the things that you have accomplished. I am so grateful for everything that I have done and allowed in to my life over the years.
Those are just a few, short wants and desires.
Be willing to step outside your comfort zone once in a while; take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you'd just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting.
They aren't selfish, they aren't needy, and they certainly are not everything.
But today, start somewhere, anywhere...just think of a small list of your wants. What can you do to get there? Where can you start? Is it a big step, or maybe a smaller one to move you towards the edge of your arrested development and comfort zone?
|1.||arrested development - an abnormal state in which development has stopped prematurely|
Life is too short to only "want" for everyone else. Because you will find that when you start working on what it is you truly want and desire that those around you do as well, and ultimately all the "wants" you had for them, start to manifest.