January 11, 2014

Phew! What a week!

First off let me preface this week's ridiculous epic fail as far as the daily gratitude goes, with, I love people.

All kinds.  I love to listen to them, I love to watch them, I love it.  Now before you accuse me of being a crazy stalker, God Tiffany you are cuh-razy...I just love the interactions, and the raw human emotions.  Especially when it gets down to the basics.  I'd have to thank "A", in Portsmouth, for showing me how much I adore the human interactions, especially when we meet under crazy circumstances.  She has truly became a sister for me the last year, and that was another thing I was incredibly grateful for this week. 
 
"There is a time for risky love. There is a time for extravagant gestures. There is a time to pour out your affections on one you love. And when the time comes --seize it, don't miss it."
--Max Lucado
 

To watch people interact, learn, grow, communicate (either effectively or not) is amazing to me.  I love the insane stories on how we meet, how we live, and how we learn to love.  I love the compassion or lack there of in some, I love the raw hatred and love we feel.  I love the way some obtuse people will weave an entire circumstance of drama, only to turn around and say how much they hate drama.  I love the ones who genuinely stay out of drama.  Either person, is interesting to watch. The last few days have been full of every singe one of those kinds of people. 
 
"Every second is of infinite value."
--Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
 
This week has been hard to keep up with the blog.  But what I found is that even though I didn't get much time to write,  I thought about my gratitude every single day.  Even Tuesday, when I battled another dreaded kidney stone.  I literally, every single day, found small things to be grateful for.  Including people.  That was on my mind all week.  I was late for work on Thursday due to another snow day for the kids, and almost got fired, and yet at the end of the day I just pushed harder to make it through my day with a smile.  When I came home, the kids had been doing crafts all day long, enjoying another day off, and I made a conscious choice to change my bad attitude.  All of the bad day, was washed away.  Just like that.  I did have control over it. 
 

 
 
We make things so complicated.  When I think about the bad moments, I try to remember that if the worst happens, there is always a solution.  I just do my best and move in to a place of patience.  Because in time, the reasoning behind life events will eventually show its face.  It took me a long time to learn that lesson. 
 
 


 
Every interaction we have affects someone else.  Whether you want to believe that or not, it is true.  Every interaction is important.  Even if it seems so very simple. 
 
I am so grateful this week for the ability to observe, both quietly and loudly, other people.  I am grateful for the daily interactions that we get in our worlds.  Sometimes when you start to pay attention to all of the little things, they start to add up, and even if you have had a bad day or someone elses' day has reflected your mood a little...when you think of the good, you get the good. 
 
You can move past the daily ridiculous mood busters and just learn to be grateful for something as simple as your morning coffee, or making it to work safely.  For some, it could simply be finding the strength to get out of bed. 
 
I've lived my life fairly open the last two years, blogging and writing about certain life issues and things that were going on.  While I kept it fairly passive and tucked under elusive assumptions, I still wrote about it.  At times I've taken some pretty harsh judgment for being so open and honest, but the times when it has mattered to someone, or inspired someone has been far greater than those few moments of insecurity for someone else. 
 
I am thankful that I started to blog and write about things that were going on, capturing some of the important moments through pen and paper, photography... sharing them with my family and friends, either "in real life", or those who I have stumbled upon during the entire writing/Indie process. 
 
 
 
You can't learn to appreciate the good, until you recognize that you have to experience the bad.  These moments pass us by so quickly, and yet some hold so much significance that it is imperative that we pay attention to them. 
 
Once you allow yourself the thoughts and emotions you are entitled to, things tend to fall in to place. 
 
I hope you all have a great weekend.  I am still working on the email subscription lists.  It might take another few weeks.  I am having a hard time figuring it out, with very little time to do it in.  It will happen, and I've already started banking some great articles and videos to watch.  Every heard of TED?  I would highly suggest joining the website.  You can visit here.
 
"Each day comes bearing its own gifts. Untie the ribbons."
--Ruth Ann Schabacker
 
 
Live, love. 
 
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January 5, 2014

Keeping Up

I missed yesterday, although I kept sitting down to write in my journal, so it was a challenge.  One that I failed, and probably will in the future.  Doesn't mean I don't think about my blessings, just that sometimes the time slips away from me to sit down and put it in to words. 

Guess I will wrap days 3 and 4 up today. 

Today is my oldest son's birthday.  Sixteen. 

Sixteen years ago at 9:24 I was a baby having a baby.  He changed my life.  He changed the life of everyone that I knew.  Today, he never ceases to amaze me when he practices patience with his siblings, and finding his balance between emotion and logic. 

Thinking about his birth, led me to other thoughts today.  And I realized that what I am grateful for today is the very definition of "serendipity".  Happy accidents.  Happiness that comes from something we least expect it to, coincidences that are born and thrive years down the road.  Sometimes the smallest decisions can alter our course so many years ahead, I'm not sure I can teach that lesson to my children enough.  Although deep down, I know they will have to find their own synchronicity and believe in it, to see it.

I was thinking about my friend Kris.  And how so many years ago, if it weren't for me she wouldn't have her family now, and now if it weren't for her, I wouldn't have the family I have now.  Things that lead us to certain times in our life...they baffle me at times.  Choices.  A single decision.  I am so lucky to have the same circle of friends years and years later.  Then when I think about all of my long standing relationships, I just get overwhelmed with gratitude.  Even from so far away, Danielle and Michelle are still here for me.  It's serendipity at its finest.  A choice made here, a path taken there...

A long time ago, when #1 was a new born baby, Kris used to come to my apartment.  She would make a pot of coffee and sit with him while I slept.  Oh my God, how I needed that sleep.  He never slept, and that carried on into childhood, he can still go hours on a tiny amount!  Kris would come over and sit on long distance calls with her "M" and I would sleep peacefully for a few hours, it made such a difference in my parenting at the time.  Because I was young, exhausted, and in-experienced.  I was thinking about it today, how important that time was for all of us.  My adolescent best friend, helping me with my baby.  I was also thinking about how, we were all so young, and yet our kids have made such good decisions.  We have done the best we can, and it is enough, it simply worked. 

 
If it weren't for me, Kris wouldn't have her "M", and if it weren't for her, I wouldn't have my "M", or my Rachel.  Funny little memories and decisions have led us to where we are today.  Even in the eye of the storm, when it is hard to see, everything does have a reason.  Sometimes it is simple and other times it is more complicated.  None the less, there is a  purpose. 



 
 Thomas Jefferson quotes 

Today I am grateful for the blog title, serendipity.  I am also grateful for the many friends that I have collected over the years, and the "happy accidents" that have taken place and put us exactly where we are supposed to be.  Logic aside, sometimes we just have to believe in a little magic.  We have to let our hearts lead us sometimes.  I am grateful for simple happiness and the memories attached to serendipity and synchronicity. 


I had a talk with #1 tonight, and attempted to stress (lightly in teenager terms) how important it is that he cherishes the moments he has with his family, and hugs and kisses and says what he needs to say.  We need to pay attention and not let moments pass us by.  Let go of judgment and fear and be vulnerable.  It's a learning process I am grateful for. 










Happy Birthday #1, you truly are one of my teachers.  And that I am also grateful for.  Turns out this weekend, gratitude for many things ran across my mind, and I am lucky enough to be able to convey that to the readers.  I hope you are enjoying noticing your own things to be grateful for, even when it seems all is lost, there will be something...maybe tiny, but SOMETHING to be grateful for.  And to learn from as well. 

Live, love.

Tiffany

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January 3, 2014

Comical Karma

It's kind of funny how one random act of jealousy can stir us up.  I know I tend to use passive aggression when writing here, but I think it's important to show our imperfect sides.

I watch people go through their phases, myself included, of insecurity.

But the last few weeks, a nagging insecurity provided something wonderful this morning.

Going over a few things with one of my very best friends this morning helped me to understand exactly why some people behave the way they do.  Sometimes when we move on with our lives, and then take a look back at what we took for granted, the thought of someone else coming along to embrace what we no longer wanted, or needed, sparks a knee-jerk reaction of longing.

Those who believe in nothing are very, very jealous and angry at those who believe in something.
Dennis Prager 


I am so amazed by synchronicity and serendipity at times, and equally amazed with those who choose arrested development.  The tiny threads that bind us together, sometimes taking years to present their entire purpose.  I spend a lot of my thoughts on these things, and attempting to pay attention to those two tiny blessings.  When something bad happens, or when insecurity takes over I attempt to figure out why, and understand that everything does happen for a reason.  I know it, I believe it, I live it.  I know others do not, and that's perfectly okay.

I realized this morning, that I am so entirely grateful for where I am in my life right now.  I am so entirely grateful for those I get to wake up with each morning, and my friends who never let me forget who I am, or attempt help me through to see both sides of a story.  The last year and a half has been spent learning more about my faults and my vices.  But the faults and stumbles did serve their purpose, and I am sure there will be many more to come.  The discipline I have had to keep, in the end, taught me a more valuable lesson than I realized.

I can't imagine not being where I have landed.  And I can't wait to see where I am going.  I hope that the journey is equally spiritual and enlightening as it has been.  I hope that I continue to understand that I am in charge of changing the things and habits I don't like, and I also hope that those around me continue to learn from watching my slips and falls.  And that I try to learn from theirs, even those who I seem to struggle with insecurity in an interaction, and being contemptuous towards.

I did learn something from my own insecurity the last couple of weeks.  It hit me like a freight train this morning.  I am learning from the passive aggressive drama thrown my way by a few uninspiring adults.  I have stood up through the last year and a half and figured out what I needed to change, and where I want to be.  And I made choices to move towards an incredible and fulfilling life.
But the best part, is through it all (which I would do over again in a heart beat), I ended up so blessed that I can't even put it in words.



Recently, someone asked me if I were "happy".  I thought "yes", at first.  


But happy is a fleeting emotion.

I am content and secure.  Secure.  Emotionally and physically secure, minus a few fleeting human moments that spark jealousy or insecurity, or even anger.  That is exactly where I want to be.  Right now I am surrounded by those I trust and love.  And trust goes hand in hand with being secure.  So for now, I tiptoe through the insecurity, and focus on the amazing gifts I have been handed, over what seemed like huge mountains I could never attempt to cross.  The mountains seemingly get easier to climb with each one conquered, and I am excited to see what happens this year!

The thing is, in hindsight...if someone else had not made a mistake, I wouldn't have ended up with such an incredible person right by my side.

Or if I hadn't learned from my own mistakes...I'd never have the relationships and experiences I have now.





Day 3~ So today I am thankful for all things that go along with karma.  The lessons we learn, and the lessons we teach.  Insecurity, jealousy, mis-steps along the way, and words not spoken, "Don't throw rocks at glass houses",  "Reap what you sow" yada...yada...yada...some people will never learn.

Make an attempt to NOT be one of those people.  Pay attention to your judgments, watch your words, and acknowledge the feelings attached to those things.  It's something we do on a daily basis, myself included.  Those imperfections are what make us human, but they are also what aides in our growth once we recognize and address them.  I can think back to a time when I needed to hear a decent lesson in karma.  Might have been quite a bit in my younger years, but none the less, it was needed. 

We really do get back what we give, so...do good.  Focus on trust and security.  Figure out what is making you insecure.  Try and figure out where the feeling is coming from.  Fight the anger and yet allow it to be acknowledged, because really, that is all those emotions want, is to be acknowledged.






Lots of changes here, and changes coming in my writing, but those announcements will have to wait.

The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.
William Penn 

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Live, love.

Tiffany














January 2, 2014

Day 2

Today was a long day,  I literally had to sit down tonight to make time for my gratitude.  Even though tonight's post is short, today I was grateful for patience.

Sis had a rough time getting to sleep last night, so we were all in bed late.  And then up at 4:45 this morning. 

So much to update the blog with, but will have to get in to a more detailed explanation this weekend. 

Day 2~I am grateful for patience. 

Wanted to share a link that my dear friend Judith posted today about magical people.  It was an interesting and fun read!

Enjoy and visit!
Live, love.

Tiffany

January 1, 2014

365 Days Of Gratitude

Happy New Year's! 

I haven't had a chance to go back over last year's post, curious as to how I was feeling at this time. 

Hope you all had a wonderful Holiday and it is starting to die down again.  Sometimes the return to the normal routine is almost therapeutic. 

I will be going back over the site in the next few days and there some announcements that will follow. 

I write about gratitude often.  And sometimes I wonder if those who do not practice it on a regular basis, realize how difficult it can be a times. 

The blog will be addressing this for 2014. 

Starting today I am going to use the blog as my gratitude journal.  I will list more details as the weekend approaches us and am also looking in to a mailing list, which we will keep you updated on.

It's getting late here, and I have to be up at 4:45 am, so today  post is short.  They will vary, and they will show you how daily practice can change your entire world. 


Day 1

Today, I was grateful for my friends.  The many wishes sent my way, and the thoughtful gifts were received with total appreciation. 

Live, love.

Tiffany

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
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