January 31, 2013

February, the month of "Love"?

Taking the week off for the most part.  Thought I would share the link to Taurean and Leo. 

"Hey There Delilah" Plain White T's...#Listening #slowday Sharing some of my favorite tunes, Howie Day links are at the bottom. 

If you are looking for a quick read for the quiet weekend ahead, download a copy today, and please don't forget to review.  Make it a wonderful month, February is the month of  love.  Hopefully romance and love are heading your way.  If you are a Leo, I thought I would share our February monthly horoscope, I found it on this awesome site.  If you are not a Leo, just follow the link, they are free, bonus! You can get your daily, weekly, monthly and the 2013 yearly.  Lots of fun things!

The girls and I have an "anti V-day" photo shoot booked with a local photographer, I'm thinking it's going to be really fun to see what us girls can come up with, so watch for that in February.  Also anticipating a slow catch up with "The Heart Of A Soldier" depending on my work schedule, and I'll try and share some links to some great blogs that I follow as well.  We are considering doing a bi-weekly review of some of the vintage black and white, classie movies, if you have a suggestion, feel free to send it to me.  I'll pass it on to Danielle and Michelle who will be helping with the reviews.  We thought it might be kind of fun in the month of "Romance". My favorite classic, is "Gone With The Wind".  It might be interesting to see if it gets replaced with something else. 

Leo February Horoscope
"If you are feeling a bit disconnected and like you are not going anywhere, this is the month that you need to put it together Leo. If your career is going nowhere, make it go somewhere. Everything is up to you. A dramatic leap of faith into a romance may be in the cards for you this month Leo, and on February 1st Mars enters Pisces and your house of intimacy. You want to find new boundaries this month Leo or maybe just jump in with both feet into a relationship or a partnership. February 7th brings you closer to being with someone but February 10th will snap you back into reality. You now value your independence more than being with someone solitude can be good for a very short time for you Leo.

You idea of romance and relationships bend again on February 18th, but you may find that a longing for someone will blur your intelligence and find, and you may jump into something totally inappropriate. When Mercury retrogrades on February 23rd you may sit back and review past events; things are still fuzzy and the romance you feel in your heart is not deep, but satisfying. On the 25th of this month you will fall in love with love and the feeling of belonging to someone. Look again and determine if this is what you really want.

On the 7th of February you are feeling really happy and caring. You will find that there are people who want to be with you and they will give you awesome advice. Be choosy in a very friendly way and don’t spread yourself too thin.

When the sun makes a brief alliance with Uranus on February 9th you are highly tempted to just thumb your nose at authority and go your own way and make your own plans. On the 10th there are conflicts with coworkers and you will ask for a transfer or else you will learn to ignore those who are bothering you at work.

February 14th through the 16th finds Sun-Pluto making you somewhat uneasy for Valentine’s Day. Things of the past just won’t go away and you can’t be totally happy unless you resolve your issues. Throw your baggage away and start fresh or risk being unhappy for the rest of your life. On February 21st the sun and Neptune are influencing your house of sharing. Be careful this month of making any long term commitments that are not tied to emotions and deep feelings.

You have many opportunities coming your way on February 25th to the end of the month. You need to look at all your opportunities and decide which one will be the best. Take care; February is going to be a very romantic month."

This another site that talks about the zodiac, and the opposites.  Here is a snippet on Taureans and Leos.  Follow the link to read about the other signs.  

"Taurus and Leo

Taurus and Leo aren't too hard to figure out. They both have more similarities than the other fixed signs. Both like money, success, art, and beauty. They both have warm personalities and Leo is faithful while Taurus is loyal. Leo and Taurus like to support their loved ones and it won't be hard for these two to come together. What is difficult for these two is their fights will be the most heated out of all of the fixed sign couples. Leo is hot-headed and can be quick to anger while Taurus will react to any kind of conflict with endurance. Imagine tossing in a Lion (leo obviously) and a bull (taurus) in an arena. Leo with its sharp claws and quickness and Taurus with it's sharp horns and tenaciousness. Of course this is metaphorically speaking. Leo will be fast with mean comments and harsh actions while Taurus will come back with brutality and a never ending grudge. If you have ever seen a Leo and Taurus couple they may appear to be very compatible and on the surface they are but if they ever stumble into a conflict it may be the most epic battle in the zodiac. With Maturity and time this relationship won't be as heated and what really attracts these two I think is the fact that their relationship is always on the edge.
Famous Taurus and Leo Couples:Orson Welles (Taurus) and Delores Del Rio (Leo), Bill Rancic (Taurus) and Guliana DePandies (Leo), George Carlin (Taurus) and Brenda Carlin (Leo), Fred Astaire (Taurus) and Robyn Smith (Leo), Harry d’Abbadie d’Arrast (Taurus) and Eleanor Boardman (LEo), Richard Barthelmess (Taurus) and Mary Hay (Leo), Debra Winger (Taurus) and Timothy Hutton (Leo), Bianca (Taurus) and Mick Jagger (Leo), Audrey Hepburn (Taurus) and Mel Ferrer (Leo), Peter Bogdanovich (Taurus) and Louise Stratten (Taurus).
Scorpio and Leo"


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January 30, 2013


“The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.”

Rumi, The Illuminated Rumi

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January 29, 2013

Thank You

Thank you to those of you who spent your overseas time watching my numbers, and texting me furiously to wake me up when we hit where we needed to be.  Thank you to my military wives and my dear friends who shared the links for two days.  Thank you to the writing community for pushing my links furiously.  Thank you to my friends who pushed me hard, the last couple of days, when I needed it the most.  Thank you to my readers who helped us get over 3,000 downloads. 

I am a very lucky, and blessed girl. 

That's a wrap. 

"Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious."

"Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life."

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

"I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think."
"Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love."

Have a wonderful week and remember the days as they pass.  Pay attention to who is standing in front of you, count even the tiniest blessings.  Never cry over spilled milk, be grateful you had it in the first place. 
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January 28, 2013

Broke out some poetry I had, sitting around collecting dust.  Enjoy, have a great week!  Going to try and take the week off.  Busy week!  I am attempting to add to "The Heart Of A Soldier".  Sharing some great quotes. 

"We were written in the stars, my love, all that separated us, was time, the time it took to read the map which was placed within our hearts, to find our way back to one another."Source Unknown

"Doubt thou the stars are fire, doubt that the sun doth move, doubt truth to be a liar but never doubt that I love."W. Shakespeare

"Don't curse the darkness; light a candle."Chineese Proverb

Miss Me by Tiffany Luv Wright

  • You'll miss knowing how badly I wanted you to kiss me when you entered the room.
  • You'll miss the way my breath felt on your neck, and the way I felt from behind.
  • You'll miss the fact that I was compassionate, emotional, passionate, and kind.
  • You'll miss knowing exactly what was going through my mind.
  • You'll hate the compliant boredom and rage will set in.
  • You'll see the mistake you made, and how it all began.
  • You'll miss someone knowing how to touch you with just words.
  • You'll miss the ferocious way passion occurred.
  • You'll think of whispers in your ear, and you'll miss what never came to be.
  • Because every time you close your eyes, you, will remember me. 

  • Illusion by Tiffany Luv Wright

    The illusion of love is just that
    A light breeze that gently kisses our lips
    The touch of fingertips in the moonlight
    The illusion of love is as bright as a star
    A heartbeat that is felt in the palm of a hand
    It is the sigh of a lonely lover
    As she waits for the dawn
    The illusion of love is felt
    Like the hands reaching for the velvet touch
    Of the night as it engulfs the daylight
    The illusion of love is sweet music
    And the smell of handpicked wildflowers
    It is the longing that miles can create
    And the whisper of lovers as they reach for one another
    The illusion of love exists for all
    The illusion of love is the fear of the fall
    There is no illusion, after all.

    Poems, novel excerpts, and lyrics are sole ownership of Tiffany Luv Wright Copyright 2012-2013

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    January 27, 2013

    I Wish You Enough

    Michelle shared this with me last night, and I needed it. I thought I would share the sweet sentiment here. 

    Loving Matt Nathanson too, this weekend.  Enjoy!

    How lucky am I to be able to count such beautiful women as friends, who seem to hang on to me tightly? Even from thousands of miles away? 


    Recently, I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport as the daughter's departure had been announced. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said:

    "I love you and...
    I wish you enough."

    The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom." They kissed and the daughter left.

    The mother walked over to the window where I sat. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry.

    I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?" "Yes, I have," I replied. "Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever good-bye?"

    "I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral," she said.

    When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, "I wish you enough." May I ask what that means?"

    She began to smile. "That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.

    "When we said 'I wish you enough' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them". Then turning toward me, she shared the following, reciting it from memory,

    "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

    I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

    I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

    I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

    I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

    I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

    I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."

    She then began to cry and walked away.

    They say it takes a minute to find a special person. An hour to appreciate them. A day to love them. And an entire life to forget them.



    January 26, 2013

    From The Mouths Of Babes

    I am getting hit with life lessons left and right, lately, from my own children.  I love it when we think they aren't soaking in anything we are actually saying, and out of the blue, you find yourself learning a lesson from them. 

    The balance between a parent and a child should always be that of teacher and student.  The roles interchanging at different times in our lives.  If you are not learning from your child, then you are missing out on some of lifes greatest lessons.  I am lucky to have 4 great kids who truly are a reflection of myself and my heart (and of course the village helping us raise them). 

    Tonight, #1 and I got to spend some time alone.  We were talking about relationships, and he was reminding me the importance of how nothing worth having was comes easy. He was telling me that if someone was afraid, you never just stepped out on them.  But to gently remind them you are there.  Because if they are afraid, and express that fear, and you just let them go, you have just proved their fear to be withstanding.  Sitting beside my first born son, who both outweighs me and towers over me, I was blown away at his insight that he has locked away over the years. 

    I was humbled at his vision of love, and what was too soon, what was real, and he quoted "All The Worlds A Stage" by William Shakespeare.  He discussed the different stages in our lives, and reminded me again, of who I am.  He makes me proud, even with his Capricorn logic, he is attempting to learn the balance of his brain and his heart.  He is simply observing love and filtering out what is real, and what is not. 

    He is paying attention and learning from me, and I am paying attention and learning from him.  I won't share all of our conversation, but he is right.  Nothing worth having comes easy in the long run.  Sometimes the road less traveled is bumpy, and filled with huge potholes.  It seems to never end, and yet when you come to the final stop, you look back and see the beauty created in being strong, and having hope and faith. 
    "All The World's A Stage" William Shakepeare
    All the world's a stage,
    And all the men and women merely players;
    They have their exits and their entrances,
    And one man in his time plays many parts,
    His acts being seven ages. At first, the infant,
    Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms.
    Then the whining schoolboy, with his satchel
    And shining morning face, creeping like snail
    Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,
    Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
    Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier,
    Full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard,
    Jealous in honor, sudden and quick in quarrel,
    Seeking the bubble reputation
    Even in the cannon's mouth. And then the justice,
    In fair round belly with good capon lined,
    With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,
    Full of wise saws and modern instances;
    And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts
    Into the lean and slippered pantaloon,
    With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;
    His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide
    For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice,
    Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
    And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
    That ends this strange eventful history,
    Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
    Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.

    Fear, Love, and Logic

    I wasn't going to write today.  Or tomorrow.  But my mind has been keeping me up late, and rising early. 

    Thanks to Rhonda for todays quote. 

    "Love is much beyond dating and kissing. It is an amazing and soulful realization capable of incredible healing and miracles Love is mending a broken heart and making it feel loved all over again. Love is the tears in the middle of the night... with arms of your beloved wrapped around you, keeping you safe. Love is sacrifice, compromise, and understanding. Love is valuing someone’s life over one’s own. Love is the light that shines from every corner of your heart and enlightens your soul…"Aarti Khurana

    I don't know what shifted in me this month.  But this morning I was thinking about fear.  How it drives us into a corner.  How it drives us into "fight or flight" mode.  And how it pushes us to new levels.  It forces us to either run with our tails tucked, or hunker down and push through with blind faith in hope that the storm will clear.   

    Even when we lose our tempers, or we cry, or lash out at those closest to us, praying they can help us get through whatever it is we are fighting to keep a hold of so fiercely.  Fear either drives us into the corner of compliance and a life of boredom, or it drives us to push past that compliance and reach for the unknown. 

    I am afraid of failure.  I am afraid of loneliness.  I am afraid of being forever stuck in the same routine.   

    I could list all of the thing that I am afraid of, and they are probably similar to yours.

    I am spending my time off with my friends, and finding out who I truly am. 

    I see the reflection of myself in my children, but lately, the truest reflection has come from the quiet moments when I sit down and try to visualize where I've been, where I am, and where I want to go.  Each day the future becomes clearer and I stay a little bit closer to the real person that I am.  I am slowly returning to the person that I need and want to be, accepting the fact that, this is the real me.  And the real me is beautiful, just like the real you, is beautiful as well.  It's okay to be who you were meant to be. 

    Emotional, verbal, soft yet tough when I need to be, funny, and human.  That is the biggest thing I think we all need to come to the realization, is that why we look different, we are surely cut from the same mold.  We all make mistakes, and we all have triumphs. 

    It's when we start to view those around us without judgement and with reflection of ourselves that we start to understand the reason we are here. 

    It may take a while, and it may take several mistakes, but eventually I think most of us arrive at the same conclusion.  Life isn't about material things, or tangible treasures.  It's about love, emotion, and feeling human. 

    Fear, love, regret, pain, happiness and contentment, anger, impulsiveness, confusion, and emptiness touch us all at some point.  We get anxious,we get scared, we make impulsive decisions out of the fear of what is considered normal.  But truly, on the face of this Earth, who defined what "normal" truly is?  Where is hope and faith?  Where is the love for the simple and yet, beautiful?  Where is imagination? 

    Without art, music, and writing, we would lose it.  We would lose the little bit of magic that we all hold on to.  Some a little tighter than others.  I think those are the people who keep the magic alive, they are the ones who keep the rest of our society believing in hope and faith. 

    I am a very spontaneou person, sometimes impulsive.  I have to truly practice patience.  It was a learned skill for this crazy Leo.  I am certainly not perfect, sometimes not thinking before I jumped off of a cliff.  But when I think about it, the moment right before I jumped was the most exciting, even if I landed on my ass.  Some of those memories are the best I will ever have. 


    There is a time for logic and the head, and there is a time for love and the heart.  If you can learn to master the two, and use them together...the possibilities are endless.  

    January 25, 2013

    Girls and Two Dollars For Baby Wyatt

    I've been attempting to get as much writing in as possible, with going back to work soon rearing its ugly head.  Today I wasn't sure what I was going to go on and on about.  Thanks to my Miss Erica, who celebrates her sixth birthday soon, now I know. 

    This morning when we were getting ready for school, Miss Erica was so concerned with "baby Wyatt" that she couldn't stop talking about him.  The school is doing a fundraiser today, if the kids pay $2 they get to wear a hat.  And the proceeds go to help "baby Wyatt".  She was totally convinced that her $2 was going to save "baby Wyatt".  The boys were explaining to her that it was only $2, and she insisted that if she took $2 that "baby Wyatt" would be saved.  Her logic replacing theirs with "Well, how many kids are in your school?  What if everyone brings $2?"  Touche my tiny, mini-me.  Soon enough the boys were attempting to do the math in their heads, and begging for their $2 as well, without wearing a hat.  And so her lesson was taught, and received with love

    "So much of what I see reminds me of something I read in a book when, shouldn't it be the other way around?"-You've Got Mail

    A few hours later, and a few cups of coffee circulating throughout my system is when it hit me.  Girls are so funny.  We spend our days with our heads in the clouds.  But some of us wear our hearts so prominently on our sleeves.  I am grateful that even through all of my mistakes as a mother, because none of us are perfect, that she still sees love.  She truly believed that her $2 would be the $2 that would save "baby Wyatt".  And that is when it hit me, she like her mother, is a believer.  The boys brushed it off, tucking their bags of coins in to their backpacks.  And there sat Miss Erica truly concerned with this baby she has never met.  She watches as others drop their change in the change bucket, she wants to know why.  She is her mothers daughter.  Forever holding on to hope that what she does, might make all of the difference in the world. Because in the end, when I am gone, her choices will make a difference if she believes.   Even if it appears that no one is listening or watching. 

    "I'd miss you even if we had never met"- The Wedding Date

    But they are.  There are those out there who are listening and watching everything you do.  They are taking in a tiny lesson from watching your mistakes, and your achievements.  They are waiting to see how you react, what you do, and how you approach the world.  They are soaking in the good that you are putting out.  Even when you think you aren't possibly doing a thing right. 

    It could be your children, it could be a brother or a sister, a parent, or a complete stranger.  They see your movements and they try to match them.  And for a split second you are changing something in this world.

    Love is truly what makes this world go around.  Love, truth, hope, the very depth of your soul is what circulates when all seems to be going wrong. 

    "Beginnings are scary. Endings are usually sad, but it's what's in the middle that counts. So, when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. And it will."-Hope Floats

    We never stop growing and learning.  We shouldn't.  When we stop growing out of fear or a stubborn, logicl streak then we are robbing ourselves of what this life is truly about. 

    I thought I would share some of my favorite quotes.  I know I do most days, but today these are just sticking out and screaming to be passed around. 

    Happy Friday!

    "All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on" Havelock Ellis

    “I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle in your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”- When Harry Met Sally

    "But for now, let me say - Without hope or agenda - Just because it's Christmas - And at Christmas you tell the truth - To me, you are perfect." – Love Actually

    "Did you ever stick your arms out and spin and spin and spin? Well, that's what love is like."- Practical Magic

    This is a great site, where you can find some of these quotes.  Visit here. 

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    Happy "almost" birthday my sweet, baby girl.  You are a piece of me.  You truly will be an honorable ruler. 

    Meaning:Eternal ruler
    Meaning:Honorable ruler

    January 24, 2013

    Lost and Found

    They stood on the shoreline
    Listening to the tide as it slowly rolled in
    Bringing silver lined waves along with it
    The moon watched calmly from the night sky
    The light sounds that come from the night waters
    Bathing their ears with each wave
    The stars above giving their approval
    Slightly blinking through their tears of joy
    She stood wrapped up in his arms
    Turning, she gently took his hand
    Placing it over the pale skin that covered her heart
    He looked in to her eyes with silent curiosity
    "Feel, just close your eyes and feel"
    He could feel the tiny organ
    That would fit in the palm of his hand
    Beating along with each breath she took
    Standing there alone with her, on the sand
    When he opened his eyes
    Hers were filled with the sparkling tears
    As silver as the lining on the ocean waters
    Soon, one lost drop
    Gently graced her cheekbones
    "It's been yours since the day we met"
    She responded in a low whisper
    For the first time he saw her
    For the first time he could feel her
    "Even when you hurt me"
    Another tear rolled down her cheek
    He caught it with his fingertips
    And lowered his lips to hers
    He took her hand
    Placing it over his own beating heart
    "Every beat of mine will be spent healing yours."
    They stood in silent understanding
    She returned to her position in his arms
    Still feeling his heart beating in his chest from behind her
    While hers was beating with pain
    His was beating with love
    Each breath he took was an attempt at healing
    The silent black and silver sky agreed
    The stars twinkling back their approval
    Each wave moving with the beat of their hearts
    Restoring the balance of the lost and found

    Poems, novel excerpts, and lyrics are sole ownership of Tiffany Luv Wright Copyright 2012-2013

    maggie and milly and molly and may

    by E. E. Cummings

    maggie and milly and molly and may 
    went down to the beach(to play one day)
    and maggie discovered a shell that sang 
    so sweetly she couldn't remember her troubles,and
    milly befriended a stranded star
    whose rays five languid fingers were;
    and molly was chased by a horrible thing 
    which raced sideways while blowing bubbles:and
    may came home with a smooth round stone 
    as small as a world and as large as alone.
    For whatever we lose(like a you or a me) 
    it's always ourselves we find in the sea

    Love and miss you girls!

    New Music

    I love it when I get introduced to new music.  Thanks Germany! ;)  Love and miss you, see you soon!  Yay! 

    You had me at acoustic.  Paolo Nutini is fabulous.   I love his live version, or the acoustic. 


    And this, I am loving Boyce Avenue as well!  Happy Thursday!  Follow me on Twitter @Tiffluv78 #listening #newmusic #love

    January 23, 2013


    I was thinking as I was writing to Danielle yesterday, how funny life is.  I was writing a funny card out to celebrate our "5 year anniversary".  I was thinking about how time flies by us and we don't even notice it as it rushes through and leaves us with memories only.  If you are one of the lucky ones who sees the beautiful souls you encounter, and snatches them up, then you get to go on making memories.  You get to go through life and keep them with you.  I am lucky because I get to write them in to stories, that will live forever. 

    It was beautiful here today, and anyone who knows me, knows I adore being outside.  I could spend all of my time outside, weather permitting, of course.  Because those who know me also know how much I hate being cold.  I walked as long as I could possibly get away with, watching the others as they past.  I am always curious what they are thinking about, if they are thinking about anything at all.  People intrigue me. 

    To err is human nature.  To judge is probably human nature, as well.  A lot has been on my mind lately in regards to judgement and how we view others choices.  I have spent the last few months in the spotlight of judgement, with very few taking the time to actually try and figure out what is truly going on.  I suppose that is the ugly result of any divorce, or separation. 

    I think you reach a point in your adult life when you just learn to accept.  You realize that the minute that "Well, I would never..." (fill in your own words) comes out of your mouth, the world says "Oh, really?". 

    It amazes me those who continue to live their life for someone else.  It amazes me that people just pass by, or toss out those who are flawed, or have their own sets of baggage.  I can't imagine my life without some of the people I've had the amazing gift to encounter.  For that, I am grateful.  Sometimes ending something that was painful or hurtful, is the only option you are left with.  Especially when you are attempting to grow, or replace negativity with a positive outlook.  And when you are trying to piece together losts parts of yourself. 

    What matters is how quickly you do what your soul wants.

    ~ Rumi

    Love isn't about judgement.  Love is about acceptance.  And love is about realizing that everyone comes with their own set of problems.  If we take one moment to truly think about what our soul wants, how can that be misconstrued as self absorbed, or selfish?  Love is what I will teach my children.  And the most important lesson is for them to learn self love.  I think when you reach the point in your life when you understand who you are, and what drives you, and what touches your soul, that is the beauty of the lesson of self love. It is okay, to simply be, you. 

    Others will judge you, but you have to realize that until they learn to break from the pack and stop worrying about what others might say about them , there isn't anything you can do.  And it isn't your fault.  You should never hold a grudge, but simply wait quietly until they understand where you are and why you are holding on to what you are holding on to so fiercely. 

    The invisible threads that bind us will continue to hold tight, as long as we do not unravel them with our own tendencies to let logic take over every decision we make. 

    Don't let fear take over the part of yourself that wants to love.  I struggle with that everyday, but it is a process.  It is slow, and it isn't always going to feel happy, sometimes the fear leaves you on the end of hurt.  Wouldn't it be a shame to miss out on some of the best times in your life, because of the fear? 

    When you decide that the hurt isn't going to control your life, and you can let go, you learn to love.  One day at a time. 

    I thought I would share some of the fun moments that I had lying around in the computer.  Spring is just around the corner, start paying attention to the time as it flies by you.  Try and learn to see the beauty in what is surrounding you.  Even when you are sure that the light isn't going to break the surface of that dark corner, have blind faith.  Cry, yell, do whatever you need to do to heal, but never lose the hope that everything does happen for a reason.  And that it is all about timing.  In time, the reason will show. 


    January 22, 2013


    Live, love
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    Whatever comes, let it come.
    What stays, let it stay.
    What goes, let it go. 

    January 21, 2013

    Patience, Waiting On Clarity

    I spent so much time this week on the new story, that I neglected to take very much time to reflect.  I think I honestly thought that when I was done writing, that I would be done feeling, and I could get back to my normal life.  Fat chance of that happening.  Last night emotions set in that I wasn't expecting.  And I realized that I needed to let go of the hope I was hanging on to.  After another wonderful person that came along, sent me this poem.  Thank you, by the way, if you read this. 
    It sucks to try and figure out which place some of the pieces fall in.  Right now, I don't feel like the clarity is there.  I see the moments passing in my mind, and I am attempting to relish in those moments, and yet the purpose of some of these moments in the last few weeks remain unclear. 
    Everyone is all mixed up into one enormous pile right now.  The moments are all strung together by the invisible and confusing threads that bind them. 

    I know that in a few days, or a few weeks, or a few months I'll reflect back with that "Aha" moment and see clearly exactly where some things were supposed to fall, and why they fell the way they did.  For now, the puzzle remains with missing pieces, that were in place just a few short weeks ago. 
    Life is funny, and it is beautiful.  Now we touch back on the subject of clarity, unfortuneately she likes to take her own sweet time announcing her arrival. 
    And I sit, patiently waiting. 
    Live, love
    Reason Season Lifetime
    People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
    When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
    When someone is in your life for a REASON,
    It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
    They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
    Or to provide you with guidance and support,
    To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
    They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
    They are there for the reason you need them to be.
    Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
    This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
    Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
    Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
    What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
    The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
    When people come into your life for a SEASON,
    It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
    They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
    They may teach you something you have never done.
    They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
    Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
    And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
    The season eventually ends.
    LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
    Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
    Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
    And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
    It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
    Thank you for being part of my life,
    Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
    Author – Unknown

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